Here are some of the phrases they use – all in the guise of loving you, as in: “I am only doing this for your own good.”
These are examples taken from the article recommended below.
- “That’s not what I said.” …
- “You shouldn’t feel that way.” …
- “You’re overreacting!” …
- “You made me do this.” …
- “I said I was sorry! …
- “You’re too sensitive.” …
- “You’d do it if you loved me.” …
- “You’re paranoid.”
C.S. Lewis addressed this issue in his “Till We Have Faces”, and concluded, “You are indeed teaching me about kinds of love I did not know, It is like looking into a deep pit. I like your kind better than hatred.” What does he mean? Some kinds of hatred are better than control masked as love.
Hmmm.
An excellent article on this topic https://www.happierhuman.com/manipulative-sentences/
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